“For he was the firstborn; but because he profaned his father’s thalamus, his firstborn was given to the sons of Joseph the son of Israel.” (1st Chronicles 5:1).

“Let marriage be respected by all and the thalamus be without blemish. Fornicators and adulterers will be judged by God.” (Hebrews 13:4).

Unfortunately,in our days this important, I would say almost fundamental commandment, is mentioned more and more rarely in our churches.

But what is this “Thalamus” ?

From a physiological point of view, it is’ a complex nerve structure located in our brain, and its function is of fundamental importance as it participates in the functioning of all sensory systems, playing a key role: in voluntary movements, sleep-wake regulation, state of consciousness, control of arousal and emotion, and, finally, in some aspects of memory capacity. We could therefore conclude that if this organ malfunctions, its regular control for our body would be compromised, leading to serious consequences.

Why is the thalamus associated with our bed ?

Because our God leaves nothing to chance, in fact when the thalamus of our brain is defiled, adulterated, it takes the path of imbalance, rebellion and sin, which after being concupted, is capable of leading us to defile our marital bed with fornication and/or adultery, which is why our bed is considered sacred in the union between husband and wife. For it must remain private property, a place where the covenant of that public confession of love made of promises, mutual fidelity and dedication is renewed: “behold, the two shall become one flesh” (Mark 10:6-9).

The sacredness lies in the fact that the union of the two is sanctioned in the name of Jesus, as it itself represents the love and faithfulness of the church (The Bride), toward her Lord Jesus (The Bridegroom). So we might say that husband and wife should unite in that bed in a pure and candid manner, renewing a sincere and healthy feeling, and since that reserved place was given to them by their Lord, we might venture that each time the two unite, it should resemble a celebratory act of pure and sincere love.

If we go back for just a moment to the traditions of the distant past, the thalamus was an altar where the presence of Christ in the union of a young couple was ritualized, while nowadays this is not only totally ignored but even ridiculed, giving way to vulgarity and overly goliardic versions. So since the nuptial thalamus is sacred, a widespread ancient tradition especially in the south, before the newlyweds were joined on their first night together, the nuptial bed was prepared by two virgin women, with the supervision of two married women, the mothers of the bride and groom-to-be.

It was a must that the sheets be white, also virgins, meaning never used before. Yes, white sheets, as if to symbolize how important it was to celebrate on that first night, a pure and unspoiled intimacy. An innocent little girl would climb onto the bed and jump happily and unsuspectingly, as a symbol of joy and fertility in that union. There, the women’s task ended there, only when everything was ready could the men enter, leaving on the thalamus: money, rice, liquor and other products as a wish for prosperity and wealth. All this simplicity, today has given way to the friends of the bride and groom, who punctually prepare the surprise of the first night with tasteless pranks, firecrackers and more.

And to think that until a few years ago, in the religious world, it was expected that the village priest, would go on time to bless the bridal chamber, and what about the ancient Romans, who recognized this sacred place belonging to God called ” Sacer“. Thus ended what had begun in the nuptial celebration in the church, a rite that begins with promises of fidelity and ends on the altar of the nuptial thalamus where those promises are concretized in the total gift of self to the other person. That, then, is the place where husband and wife, uniting their hearts and bodies, renew the wedding sacrament and, thus opening themselves to life and love, ritualize the presence of Christ in their union.

We could also say that the Nuncio Thalamus is our “Sacer” which comes from the verb ” Sacare,” meaning to saw, that is, to cut out, which our ancestors once did in the highest mountain to create a place for God, to be closer to Him. N n I think I am exaggerating if I say that the Thalamus is our enclosure where love given through the body, becomes God’s, as it perpetuates a true sacrament. In conclusion it can be said that what unites, what speaks of union in His holy name, is sacred !, just as the church, His bride is none other than His own body, and the two become one.

“That all may be one. As you, Father, are in me and I in you, may they also be in us one, so that the world may believe that you have sent me.” (John 17:21-22).

Honestly, I feel that I have to go further, and a question arises: “Pow can we say that you have in our days the church honors its own Thalamus ?”

Any pastor would surely answer Yes without hesitation, at least for the majority of the flock entrusted to him, and we all hope that this is true. But unfortunately, it often happens that trusting in a church made up of holy and God-fearing families disregards that Word quoted by the Apostle Paul, which reads, “Who also made us fit ministers of the new covenant, not of the letter, but of the Spirit, for the letter kills, but the spirit gives life” (2 Corinthians 3:6). This is to signify that it is worth little to read and pass on the Word of God if one does not ask for: revelation, Holy Spirit guidance and discernment of spirits.

Since time immemorial, pastors of all churches on the subject have been teaching the faithful by merely denouncing and condemning adultery as betrayal and .defilement of the marital bed. In fact they honor the Word spoken by Jesus: “But I say to you, Whoever sends away his own wife, except incase of fornication, makes her to be an adulteress; and whoever marries a repudiated woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32).

In this regard, I would like to make some clarifications:

• Matthew mentions fornication in a marriage relationship, since the subject in question is the wife. Actually, fornication is considered as such in a premarital relationship, so questions arise : ” Is there a mistranslation, or when fornication and adultery are mentioned, they mean the same thing. The latter hypothesis seems to find no basis, for if we read what the evangelist Mark writes, in ch.10, V.11-12, we see he refers to us appropriately:
• “Whoever sends away his own wife and marries , another, commits adultery against her. Similarly, if a wife leaves her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” We see that Mark even makes no exception, one should not just get married!!!

However, the word then goes to the Apostles: Paul, James and Peter, and going in order:

• Paul, writing to the Galatians, refers distinctly to both fornication and adultery, including them in a broad context of defiling the works of the flesh, ch. 5,V.19;
• James in his epistle, mentioning only adultery, writes, ” Thou shalt not commit adultery, but he also said, “Thou shalt not kill. Therefore if you do not commit adultery but kill, you are a transgressor of the law.” With this, James reminds us not to consider adultery the worst of sins, but that even a “trivial” lie makes us lawbreakers see ch.2,V.11;
• The Apostle Peter, in his second epistle, ch.2,V.14, referring to those who follow the flesh, writes, “They have eyes full of adultery and who never cease to sin; they entice unstable souls; their hearts are exercised to covetousness and they are children of curse. Here Peter, gives a guise to adultery other than a marital transgression, but includes it in a broad terrain of sin and spiritual contamination.
• Returning to Matthew ch.5V.28, it is Jesus who speaks saying, “But I tell you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” So what grave deception, two poor spouses, victims of conductors who with Pharisaic spirit, in their crisis, remind them, “it is written”; they do not care if in their mutual endurance of deceit, lies and violence, their eyes are actually full of adultery. Jesus aims straight at the heart, because he is the father who demands it, desires and welcomes only pure and sincere hearts.
• In Revelation ch.2V.20-22; The Angel tells the apostle John, to write to the church at Thyatira: “But I have some things against you: you allow that woman Jezebel, who is called a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants by inducing them to fornicate and to eat things sacrificed to idols. I gave her time to repent from her fornication, but she did not repent. Behold, I cast her into a bed of suffering, and those who commit adultery with her, into great tribulation, if they do not repent from their works.” The church of Thyatira, however praised, is found wanting in discernment of spirits, from freedom to prophesy to a woman full of every fraud, seducing servants of God. Again, fornication and adultery refer to defiled offerings and works, which are in abomination in the eyes of the Lord. We will return later for some more references to this.

Now, if we wanted to go deeper and analyze the word, ” Adultery“, we find that etymologically it derives from the Latin ” Adulterare” ; ” Falsify“; ” Alter“; and its true meaning is therefore: ” Distort“; ” Sophisticate“; ” Corrupt“; ” but of all these verbs, the most common and appropriate is : ” Falsify”, Make False ! This means to set out on a road that leads the one or she who travels it, into ever darker and darker places, places in which the further one goes, the more the soul is corrupted, contaminated, deprived of all spiritual good, more and more isolated and far from the sacred precincts, here we find a part of those lost and alas also lost sheep, who are sometimes deprived of all spiritual life.

I want to dare to say that a holy union between two spouses, can become unhappy, breaking the covenant of marriage with both the spouse and God, even without committing the act of betrayal consummated with a partner other than one’s husband or wife, it is enough to exercise the “Lie.”

We could cite hundreds of Bible verses testifying to how many times Israel hurt God’s heart because of lies, starting from Cain to Ananias and Zaffira, or Judas Iscariot and the apostle Peter. To serve the lie is to honor the father of it, that is, Satan.

Let us not forget that at the return of our Lord Jesus (which is just around the corner), It is written: “Blessed are those who fulfill his commandments to have right to the tree of life, and to enter through the gates of the city. Out with the dogs, the magicians, the fornicators, the murderers, the idolaters , and everyone who loves and practices lies.” (Revelation 22:14-15). Know husband that you lie to your wife, that you will stay out even though you have not committed sexual adultery; know wife that you lie to your husband, that you will stay out without having betrayed your husband with another man, and this is because you have adulterated the marital covenant.

Speaking in the past about this, with a believer and connoisseur of God’s Word, he exclaimed saying, “But what about it, one defiles only by carnal adultery !, what you say concerns spiritual adultery” . I understood that under the circumstances it would be useless to reply, but I would have liked to reply, “Tell me but carnal adultery, does it not defile the spirit ? , or do you estimate that carnal adultery is more serious than spiritual adultery.”

If you esteem it exaggerated to lose your soul by practicing lying, know that you are in serious and grave danger. For when this becomes a habit, you no longer feel any condemnation, for you find yourself belonging to those dead who go to bury their dead. Jesus said to someone, ” Let the dead bury their dead; but you go and proclaim the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9:V.60). This is to mean that even if living and continuing to come to church to praise the Lord, our spirit may be dead.

Let’s be honest, it happens often, even in many Christian families of practicing believers, and even in the homes of ministers of God. Has it never happened to you to compromise with lying to your wife, perhaps for good, to avoid a tedious and wearisome quarrel ?, or to your children, exclaiming phrases like, “Yes, but don’t say anything to your father, or your mother, let it remain a secret between us”; or to some friend or relative suggesting something like, “Don’t say that, make something up, thusomitting truths is inviting a person to lie.”

Practicing lying within the home is like a cancer; it grows in some cases over time, in others it expands rapidly. It advances in stages:

• At its first stage it starts with small lies;

• At the second, it creates small walls of misunderstanding, for example, if a father takes the children back, the wife immediately takes their side by opposing the husband, and they often contradict themselves in front of them;
• At the third stage it advances then coming to shouts and insults;
• Fourth, it makes communication and dialogue a vain memory, and Satan ready knows how to solidify this new conquest by putting his tools into action: cell phones, the Internet and social media, not to mention television programs;
• In the fifth stage it creates new habits and in some cases some new vices, such as watching forbidden late-night programs, while the marital bed begins to be little shared with some sporadic intercourse that certainly does not smack of sacredness;
• At the sixth stage, the relationship between husband and wife takes the turn of a drab and habitual living, all manifestations of affection disappear, now there is a real difficulty in sharing the marital bed, and one finds oneself escaping with the mind by traveling with longings for what has been lost , and it becomes more intense to take refuge to social media, movies or TV episodes, unaware now that they are in enemy territory already captive, having thus forgotten the words of the apostle Paul in his epistle to the church in Corinth ch.7,V.5, : “Do not deprive each other, except by mutual agreement for a time, to devote yourselves to fasting and prayer; then again return to being together, so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

Almost all believers are urged to pay attention and judgment in the church to the hearsay of a couple breaking up, and the topic becomes more interesting if the cause is about cheating, but without realizing that their house is about to be swept away by a flood, as little esteem is given to the spoken Word: “For you will be judged according to the judgment with which you judge; and with the measure with which you measure, it will also be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:2).

What has been said so far in this day and age seems like a normal routine, but the seriousness consists of the fact that our churches are full of these marital realities, no one sets minds and does not realize from the very first symptoms of this terrible satanic strategy, and that marriage is falling apart.

I have seen families where it is the wife who leads with authority and arrogance, because the husband in order to have …. ” peace” in the home, prefers to keep quiet; others where it is the husband who arrogantly masters over his wife, but then you find them both in church praising the Lord; not to mention those spouses who are hostage to the children, they are the ones who dictate the rules, often using irreverent and vulgar language.

What was meant to be united is now in tatters, one isolates more and more, the bond with Christ has loosened, one no longer prays in the home, the home altar fire is extinguished, communication is compromised, one avoids topics to avoid strong quarrels, one no longer lives, one barely endures, perhaps, resigned some wait for death, in some desperate cases, this one wishes it on one’s spouse. Yet it all started with some little lie, it is always the same poison injected since ancient times.

Do you remember Cain, who cultivated within himself a separation from his own brother Abel, but God though he did not like Cain’s offering loved them both, and urged Cain to do good, to be less selfish, only then would he lift up his countenance; He warned him by revealing to him that sin was spying on him at the door. But in reality what is already consummated in one’s own heart is unlikely to be consummated to the end, in fact Cain had already decreed to kill his brother in his own heart, he just had to do the deed. Wonderful words, ” Beware that sin is spying for you at the door, and its desires are directed toward you, but you must master it, you must overcome it” (Genesis 4:V.2-8). Lying in fact follows immediately after, “I am not my brother’s keeper; I do not know where he is.” You see here, how Satan always uses the same tools: “Seduction, Concupiscence, Lying” , all children of the same father.

Of course we won’t go as far as murder, even if we no longer pay attention to the many feminicides that are the order of the day, not counting “Maschicides” , which no one talks about, but which actually in percentage, reach almost the same number as feminicides. It happens, however, that we remain heedless of what wrong we are about to do, we loosen the third end of the rope, we listen to sinister suggestions and temptations, we concupt in our hearts, our home is already no longer safe, our marital and spiritual life is already compromised, we practice lying, we allow ourselves to be wrapped up in thoughts and desires that lead us to evade the present that perhaps oppresses us, and perhaps we continue to play the role of the husband or father, but we know that our life is outside the reality we live, unaware that we have broken the sanctioned covenant of our marriage, forgetting that in this covenant there was the witness par excellence: ” Our Lord Jesus,” however, until now we have saved the appearance, and even though the garment of hypocrisy we wear is now filthy, we can say that we have not divorced with our spouse, unaware that we have already divorced with our God.

Tell me, how long has it been since you have talked to your wife without quarreling, how long have you been playing the role of an authoritarian father, knowing that your authority is already compromised, but what did you expect from this marriage, to forge a wife in your image and likeness, who obeys only your will by always agreeing to everything, serving you by honoring you, satisfying your cravings and sitting quietly waiting for your nightly returns ? ; And you wife, what did you want from your husband, an all-around man, always by your side, always agreeing to your every desire, apt to love only what you love, guaranteeing you will always come first, even before the Lord ? Perhaps you have grown tired, disappointed in each other, and now there is nothing left but to escape, to run away, or resigned to living a lousy life of intolerance, you hate each other, perhaps continuing to act out in front of others the comedy of the model couple. So let us not be surprised at the many separations that take place in our churches, more so in our day and age; not all are due to carnal adultery, many are caused by genuine spiritual adultery which produces an agonizing, slow and very painful death. Let us remember that our God, is a jealous God, wants the family to be united and holy, since the time of the prophets He denounced Israel’s adultery already through the prophet Jeremiah, condemning Israel making idols, prostituting themselves with wood and stone, thus turning away from their God. (Gemeriah 3:V.9).

Poor Reuben, eldest son of Jacob’s first wife ” Lea “, driven by a strong resentment toward his father who loved Rachel, his second and much-desired wife, Lea’s sister, experienced a real and continuous frustration, a lack of affection caused by his father Jacob, who had all the care for his sons Joseph and Benjamin. He, after Rachel’s death, hoped to finally find the loving father so longed for, and the husband who finally returned to his mother Lea, loving and honoring her, but sadly Jacob preferred to stay with his wife Rachel’s slave “Bilhah,” rather than return to his first wife Lea. Here begins Reuben’s rebellion, now enough is enough, he has to undermine his father’s bed, he has to make him feel what humiliation and betrayal means, so he seduces his slave by defiling his father’s thalamus; Jacob learns of this and decides to take away Reuben’s primogeniture. Then know, brother/sister, that if you defile your thalamus, you will for sure lose your primogeniture, because you have made little esteem of it, just as Esau did with his father Isaac, and Reuben did likewise with his father Jacob, unfortunately history repeats itself.

Our Heavenly Father, did not want to hide anything from us, in His Holy Word, we read of adulteries, betrayals, even incest having taken place, but all this has been revealed to us so that, we can keep ourselves pure and holy, and it is up to us to decide if we want to keep our primogeniture, for for sure when on that day the Bridegroom comes to abduct His bride, He will still find her as she has always been desired: pure, chaste and undefiled, but I wonder, “shall we be part of that bride ?”

There is a great need for the family to return to being such as the Lord intends it to be, just as the Apostle Paul wrote to the church in Ephesus (ch.5), exhorting the distinction and respect of the roles of a married couple, the dedication and submission of the woman, and the boundless love that the husband owes him.

Today these roles have been stolen from us, satan has succeeded in twisting peoples’ destinies, starting with woman, he has deluded her to be independent of man, free at last, free to value and give vent to her own intellectual abilities, why be a mother, no more abortion, why have one man, free sex, why call him husband, just say, ” my partner,” or “my companion.” , so why marry, just live together and try if it works. Satan taught them to hate man, to see him only as a despot, a useless exploiter.

It repays these women with its currency of seduction, using them as protagonists in pornography, it inculcates in our children, from the earliest age, that the woman is only an object of pleasure, these then as adults will become beasts without any morality or respect for the woman anymore. Just think that only in 2014, the University of New Mexico, did a survey, noting that the porn industry made $97 billion in that year alone, what do you say, in this day and age statistical quota will have decreased. I rather wonder why it is that the feminist movement, in its constant marches, denounces a lack of women’s emancipation and an increasing lack of equal rights with men, but none of them promote a fight against the sex industry. Other women, through the fashion and cosmetics industry, using the media, transmit to our daughters the excellence of vanity, offering models that smack of sensuality, degradation and a strong male attraction, which finds its victory in seduction and perversion.

Satan has thus succeeded in reversing the roles: precisely because of separations, many desperate men exterminate their entire families and then commit suicide; others less violent, end up homeless. Poverty relief centers, are increasingly full, the same for the homeless, and children are locked up in orphanages, others in jail with their mothers.

Lord Please make Your church understand that the most powerful weapons used by the enemy are:

“Seduction, Concupiscence and Lies.”

It is urgent that the church must assume the role that a mother has toward her children, she must lovingly: Welcoming, Teaching, Counseling, Correcting, Directing. It must follow the path of every Christ-bound family cell, and not only to them, but through a shining witness, draw other couples in crisis bringing them from lies to truth, from darkness to the wonderful light of God’s Word, where they will find refreshment and reconciliation with their Lord the holder of all virtues.

I would like to conclude with the words of Paul’s letter to the Hebrews: “Let us draw near with sincere hearts, in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled with that sprinkling which cleanses them from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.” (Hebrews 10:V.22).

Tied therefore to that powerful rope, the house will be rebuilt and finally become a paradise.

Salvatore Sturniolo